Is it normal to lose friends after moving away? | Glam Radar

by Maria · August 30, 2014

I have been getting a ton of questions on Twitter as to how the house-hunting and how life in Chicago is treating me. I thought it would be fun to do a little update post on everything. Not to mention – writing is therapeutic – good to relieve some of my stress! From the Big Apple to the Windy City   Moving is always a double-edged sword. On one hand, you are thankful for the opportunity to move forward with your life, and get a change of scenery. It’s been great exploring new areas that I have never been to, discovering new stores and places of entertainment. I often find myself just letting the road lead the way while I discover a whole new variety of places to visit. My husband actually took me to my first White Sox game on Saturday, and I have to say it was a great time! I don’t follow baseball terribly well, and I will admit that I was asking him questions just about the entire time, but I still had a good time. There was a wonderful fireworks display after the game that I really enjoyed as well! While I am enjoying my time here it is a little difficult being so far away from everything I knew in New York. I call my Mom and Dad all day, even when I have absolutely nothing to say, it’s just comforting especially after being away for a whole month! I’ve known a lot of people that are more than willing to go out on their own – but you are talking to someone who never even went to summer camp Overall, I know that they are proud of the choices that I have made and are looking forward to my future. In 2008, my husband moved from Illinois to New York to be with me, so he is sympathetic and supportive of my feelings, which is beyond helpful, and I am thankful for him. On another note, I’ll get a little personal here – I am definitely disappointed in the fact that a lot of the “friendships” I had back in New York haven’t transferred with me to Chicago. I am a big believer that effort needs to be made on both ends, and it seems like I was always the only one putting in the effort. Moving to a new city is hard on your relationships – all of them! It takes a toll on everyone around you, and unfortunately some of those relationships really falter. Recently, I had an old friend of mine put a quote on her Instagram that sometimes people come into your life and leave footprints on your heart, and I would have loved to tell her that I think that couldn’t be more true. I am still uneasy about some of the friendships that I have lost. But I know I need to make a life for myself. I was sad to leave my job in New York – especially since that meant that I had to look for another one. Job hunting is always a stress on anyone, especially in these times! I am one of the types of people that will work no matter what. I honestly get bored without something to focus my attention on! I find having a career rewarding, and that’s why I don’t like to go too long without having a job. Plus, with house hunting – every little bit helps! So far, I have applied every where I can think of, and have been on 4 interviews. The first one did not go so well, the company was new and very unprofessional unfortunately. They also did not offer any sort of health care benefits – which just did not fly with me! My husband’s health care through his company is ridiculously expensive for a married couple with no children, so we were hoping to find a better alternative. The rest of the jobs are something I would definitely be interested in! My two favorites were a Student Advisor position at a local University, and a Social Worker at a Group Home/Rehab Center. I am hopeful for those! This is an actual room in one of the houses we first saw. What the hell were these people thinking. Not only do you not know how to paint by all the white splatter on the door, but B&W checker floor? I HATE CHECKER FLOOR! When we began our search for homes, my mother and my mother-in-law warned me that it’s an emotional process, and I’d have to agree. Purchasing a house is so much different than just moving into an apartment or something that you are not locked into. It’s a way bigger investment for sure. Luckily, I have an entire family full of crafty and handy people that can do anything from paint a room to knock down walls, so we are really open as to finding a house that will work for us. We aren’t intimidated by a cosmetic fixer upper at all. In fact, we welcome the thought of being able to rip it apart and really put our own twist on it. We’ve looked at some beautiful homes, and some not so beautiful homes. It’s all part of the process, and we are taking it day by day while I try to keep my emotions in check. So now that you’ve gotten a little insight as to my life, share with me some of your stories! Any advice for a new-mover, job hunter or house hunter?

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